Second: Shame on you if you only clicked this link because Beyonce’s name was in the title. If that’s why, Karma has certainly gotten you because the connection to Beyonce won’t come until later in the post. Surprise!
I spoke with someone yesterday (let’s call them “X”) about their college hunt. We talked about their top schools. X quickly educated me on their subcategories: top school close to home, top school academically, top school athletically etc. Then I asked my next question, “What’s your top school overall? Where do you really want to go?” X’s response, “Oh, I don’t want to put all my eggs in one basket. So I’m acting as though they will all reject me. That way the blow won’t be as hard.”
HOLD THE PHONE
I immediately insisted that X improve their outlook or else they’d certainly reap the results of the negative energy they projected. Then I had to take a moment and think back to when I was in high school. I realized that I thought in a similar way, which brings me to Beyonce. It’s amazing how comments, even those from strangers, can influence your outlook. When I was 13, I remember turning on an interview with Beyonce. Back then she was much younger, was still a member of Destiny’s Child and had yet to drop the “eyonce” from her name. Nonetheless I loved her! I sang “No, No, No” and “Bills” all day long (and still do…). In her interview on MTV she mentioned something to the effect of- she never expects success. Because the moment you expect it, it will be taken away. Now I can look back and surmise she was actually implying that she always stays humble and hungry. However, at the time, I was 13 and took everything too literally. So from the moment Beyonce spoke it, I believed her words to be true. I expected the worst for fear that I’d be disappointed.
Well, this actually worked out for a while, but then, slowly, the things I expected started to happen! I studied but prepared, just in case I didn’t do well on an exam. And then, as if by magic, I didn’t do well. It wasn’t until I was much older that I realized, this wasn’t magic at all, my mindset was directly effecting my success.
By no means am I discounting B. I was too young to truly understand what she meant. Plus she’s taught growing kids (and adults) a number of important things in her career like, girls run the world and if you like it, then you should put a ring on it- both very true.
So, after a long conversation with X, we concluded that they should be a little bit more positive on all of their future endeavors. Of course I’m always reminding myself to do the same!
I hope everyone enjoyed Halloween! I’m looking forward to Thanksgiving!